INFJs and the human crystallisation process

If the INFJ personality type is capable of modeling extreme balance like no body else, it is because we have come to experience literally both sides of the see-saw, as ourselves in human form, within this very lifetime, which is like an elite academy training regime to prepare us for the crystal outcome. To rebalance ourselves is like rebalancing all the most disparate issues, feelings and sensations of the entire messy world “out there” since we have been experiencing it all, “as though it was happening to us”, for years.

Super-thriving the menopause

A woman's life was never meant to be a linear progression from cradle to grave...she is uniquely designed to undergo complete METAMORPHOSIS in the middle. When we overlook that long-buried fact, things can get horrendously muddled in a woman's life and, above all, her health. From just surviving menopause to THRIVING through menopause; how to generate the necessary inner fire and make the transition conscious and graceful instead of precariously accidental and fraught with challenges.

Itching to get there

The many and varying, often uncomfortable, symptoms of a woman's mid-life transition are all versions of this metaphorical (you could even say, metaphysical) "itch". Really, its transformation underway...a metamophosis...and in making it mundane, by denying it or even making it seem like a problem, a curse, we fight back against what is really like a spreading of wings from the chrysalis; bewilderingly, disorientingly beautiful. Our culture has done terrible things to downplay the stage of her life that is all about female empowerment and there is a minefield of superstitious beliefs and misinformation around it; no wonder we hurt and struggle our way through it. When we welcome and encourage that transition, we allow for it to be smoother...and there a number of reasons why we might want to be doing that. These are, you could say, the times we have always been waiting for...

Enthusing about wellness

Drawing a line and stepping into a reinvented landscape that is all about optimistically meeting your life exactly where it is whilst knowing it will only get better is what this long pursued thing called recovery really is to me and so I'm already there. This state relies on not having to face a setback of the mind every time I introduce myself to others, which comes down to how I choose to explain those things about me which are likely to be alien to their world and which they may not immediately understand. When I meet new people and their brows furrow at things I state I do differently to them, I want to be able to explain how I don't do "x" or "y" because they interfere with my wellness, not that I am unwell to start with. That way, I am always starting from a point of wellness...and I now know what keeps me there (better than most); something I should be prepared to own and feel really good about. The difference is subtle but is oh-so important; and if you play with it for yourself you will find the extent to which this is true. Why should those of us who have become this in-tune with our own state of wellness be the ones deemed weird or faulty for noticing some of the detrimental circumstances that others continue to sleep-walk through though they threaten or actively undermine their wellness everyday? My health is not so vastly improved because I am reliant upon orchestrating a miserably complicated life of different-to-mainstream behaviours, denying myself what I wish I could have or take part in; it is so because I have consciously ditched those behaviours as non-conducive to the deep wellness that I now know for the deliciousness that it is and am not prepared to compromise, for anyone. And when I can't avoid those behaviours completely (since, sometimes, they are all around me) I know many ways in which my well-balanced life will keep me afloat; which is only more reason to share what I have discovered in this blog.

Claiming my future self

My health has taken a massive leap forwards this year; in fact, I honestly feel superb. After so much stop-starting over the last decade, I can’t hep noticing that the biggest difference is that I have reached the point where my only desire is to live that long-sought “healthy life” in a great feeling body and have no patience left with anything less than being there already; I simply won’t put my life on hold any longer...

What if something is going very right?

I’m feeling torn (more each day) between wanting to share useful tips, minor successes and new research in this space to help others along the bewildering recovery path and yet, increasingly, wanting to shed the whole mindset of ‘recovery’ and ‘illness’, of ‘symptoms’ and ‘disease’. This topic is leaden, innocuous and persistent, these very mindsets hold us in a place of considering ourselves as having ‘something go wrong’ as soon as we use that old terminology (and if you don't know what I mean, just try visiting a doctor without, at some level, noticing that you somehow feel worse for having had to label what you are experiencing). At the same time, I am deeply uncomfortable with the mindset of pretending that there is no pain, no physical challenge, when the experience of these can be extremely invasive, alarming and quite impossible to ignore. Instead, though I advocate that we talk ever-more openly about all the practical steps that we can take to support our bodies through these things (as I do in this space), which is how we go to meet the reality that we intend to manifest for ourselves, I believe that this is the most potent of all when partnered with a deeper knowing that all is well and everything is happening for our highest evolution. If we can just know - and I mean deeply know - that everything is alright rather than falling into catastrophic thinking and 'illness' mentality; if we can allow that, through these transitions in our cells, we are escorting in something extremely new and marvellous, something to get excited then I just know transformation can be realised as a living and breathing reality in our experience.