neurodivergence

Stabilising the autonomic nervous system as a first crucial step

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There is no separating the nervous system from the various different aspects of how the body has started to misfire over the years, cumulating in whatever burnout or crash led you to where you now are, however much other provoking factors (such as a virus or accident) might have taken the brunt of the blame because, after all, what makes one person respond to those things differently, more devastating and lastingly, than the next person if its not the nervous system? Post Exertional Malaise is a classic manifestation of this whilst tracking its triggers can teach us such a lot about our personal state of misfiring health.

Ehlers Danlos and reproductive health issues…the unsung song

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The very strong association between EDS or HSD and reproductive health issues is seldom talked about, even more rarely studied. Exploring the territory of how apparently more than half of women with EDS or HSD have vulvodynia, am alarming 77% report dyspareunia, so many have enhanced menopause issues that this is often the first thing that really flags up that they are hypermobile in the first place and that's not even touching on all the other issues they may have put up with along the way, such as dysmenorrhea (particularly painful periods), cysts, pregnancy issues and postpartum injury. Shedding a little bit of light on these topics and exploring anything, at all, that helps.

Unmasking the “and this…and then there’s this…and this…” long symptom list of chronic conditions

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If you’re in one of your health troughs, your very worse of days, weeks or months, the times when you’re a fortune hunter out there on all the forums and websites, ever hoping for a breakthrough piece of insight, remember this too will pass and that it’s not always going to be this intense, though it sometimes feels like it is. And importantly, you’re not all alone. There are others like you, with their two hands overspilling with overlapping and often utterly bewildering symptoms that get precious little ear from medical professionals. We may feel isolated in our struggle but there are a lot of us out here.

Considering monotropism

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What is monotropism, can it really explain everything about the autistic experience of life, how does it make life extra hard for those with it (in an allistic world...) yet also, conversely, make taking deep-dives into their interests thrilling, joyful, adventurous and full of flow for those who do this, also what could it look like if they were encouraged to accept and embrace this kind of thinking style, enabling, accommodating, protecting and even appreciating it rather than fighting it or making it wrong?

Why “groups” don’t work for me and other AuDHD friendship foibles

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Exploring the challenges of making friendships as a neurodivergent woman, perhaps late-diagnosed, following years of trials and tribulations trying so hard to find meaningful connections before you "realised" and navigating some of the things that patently don't work for our preferences (for instance isn't "group friendship" an oxymoron?), also learning how and when to safely drop all those masks.

Hyper: when your body doesn’t behave in predictable ways

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Curly tubes, slow motility, mystery pain, treatment outcomes that don't "take" for very long, delayed and paradoxical responses and an ongoing tricky relationship with gravity...exploring some of the quirks of living with a hypermobile body.

Internalised ableism meets autistic burnout

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Neurotypical expectations tend to come at all of us from every imaginable angle when we are autistic but, when we also internalise them and bounce them back at ourselves from the inside, the effect can be toxic because there is literally no getting away from that ableist voice now; its there night and day. Until I am prepared to notice that the voice saying these things is not mine and stand up to it, and to anyone else having unrealistic expectations of me given my autistic take on certain situations that bother me more than they can imagine, I risk repeatedly throwing myself back into a burnout status because I will never allow myself to fully recover. Every time anything that looks like a “normal” or so called “reasonable” expectation comes my way, I will simply roll over and surrender to whatever is expected of me, abandoning my desperate need to stop doing these things or putting myself in the way of highly stimulating and demanding situations and exposures in the name of trying not to rock the boat or stand out as different.

Learning to ADHD pace…the hardest but most powerful thing you will ever do

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The constant play-off between the two sides of AuDHD can be such a challenge to live with as well as such a blessing. Having parts that both provoke and complement each other is precarious in the extreme and not for the faint-hearted. It's also far too simplistic to describe ADHD (or autism for that matter) as a superpower, not to mention dismissive of its many hardships but there can be some perks when it comes to recovering from burnout, ideally before it turns into a chronic state. Exploring how ADHD can throw you a lifeline at times of health crash but also the importance of pacing...before you allow yourself to become burned out yet again!

Sensory burnout…and learning how to curate your particular version of autistic joy as a way out of it

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Autistic joy comes in some unusual packages but I think we all get to know what our personal ones are when we pay attention so it's just a case of owning up to them and curating them into our days, even more so when we particularly need them. When we burn out, it becomes even more important that we draw on our arsenal of sensory stims and other tools to help reboot our nervous system, which will take as long as it takes...our bodies won't accept any shortcuts or short rations, perhaps even more so as we get older. Giving permission to ourselves to indulge in these things is where true autistic self-care starts and our best autistic life takes shape, no matter how "old" we are when we first realise this.

Assessing the true price of the deep dive

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If you are extremely prone to taking deep dives, the time comes for asking: What is the true price of doing this in terms of its impact on self-care; is it all worth it? What do I gain from this latest obsession? Is my self-care repeatedly suffering, coming second-best to my latest fixation? Have I succeeded in traumatising myself in the name of a few inches of increased knowledge? What did I lose, in terms of blissful ignorance or humanising innocence, when I opened up that latest can of worms? Should I continue or just drop it now, like a hot potato, to reclaim my peace of mind? Can I break this trend of pushing myself too hard, too relentlessly, without first assessing the value of what I am doing or whether my nervous system would rather be doing something else or even has the reserves to cope? Can I allow that it’s not always a waste of time to be less driven or intense? Can I guide my inbuilt intensity into more benign practices that generate joy and not so much discontent, fear and trauma? Can I actually learn to steer this neurodivergent vehicle of mine instead of running it off the rails?