The common assumption goes that people with Asperger’s lack emotion, are cold and logical, even disengaged but,in the case of women, I suspect this is a textbook misnomer and very far from the truth; though perhaps we feel too weary at the prospect of having to contradict it, as I know I do, since our emotions are not so easily explained by neurotypical criteria. Rather, my exprience and research suggests we have too many emotions; great seething storms of them rolling in; but there's something different going on, to do with how we experience and then decide what to do with them...
Is it true that women with Asperger's struggle with verbal communication and prefer to communicate in writing and, if so, what are the pitfalls and the perks?
It can feel like a very long walk down a dimly lit corridor when you are trying to fathom your way out of a long running health condition such as fibromyalgia, as I expect others on the journey could probably relate to. From time to time, if you’re fortunate and diligent enough in pursuit of … Continue reading Ehlers-Danlos, POTS and Asperger’s…many lightbulbs go on at once
How long have you felt like an alien landed on the wrong planet? Its something that needs be felt into if you are an Aspie, in order to fully respect yourself for just how long you have had to swim upstream against the flow; so you can appreciate the sheer tenacity and determination with which you try…and keep on trying….to fit in, speaking and receiving words and behaviours that don't compute and yet always having to step forwards to meet others far more readily than they ever come to meet you. It's a thankless task and now it's time to thank yourself. Bringing your Asperger's into the equation can even help you cope with some of your most triggering circumstances because now you have logic on your side (and you know how much we love logic). Here's my example...
Is your body acutely sensitive to quotas of light, to changes in the season, to events way outside your mind's awareness? Time to celebrate how truly remarkable it is...and to learn to live with it.
Women who discover they have Asperger’s in their mid-life, having wandered around feeling as mystified as I have about their “different” traits all their lives, are burgeoning with the desire to take ownership of their newly labelled state; to explore themselves through new eyes and see where this uniqueness is leading. They don’t feel more broken as a result of this diagnosis; rather they feel more whole as the pieces fall together. Its like living life in reverse!
Why do we long for diagnosis, for validation, for something so fixed to get a grip on and is it always such a great idea? What happens when we court the softer possibilities, a nonlinear or quantum approach...or mix this up with a plan of action that leaves room for both? A personal review of these topics from a fibromyalgia perspective.