I’ll say it again, there really is no such thing as inevitable…a foregone conclusion…in matters of health or anything else. Its a mindset we fall into a lot, especially when it comes to our bodies. We assume (either consciously or so very deep down that we don’t even notice ourselves doing it) that one thing will lead to another, that diagnosis will mean a particular outcome, that a family trait will mean we will go that way too.
I recognised this old trait in myself a lot, this last year. My mother struggled with middle-years weight issues, then with menopause, became diabetic and then died prematurely of liver cancer. Of all my siblings, I most closely share the same fundamental biology and many of her personality traits so, of course, I’ve half-expected I would become her all my life which, in some ways, I embraced as a good thing…but not in these. Yet, along with realising this undercurrent, I have also realised the absolute miss-truth of it and that is testament to how much I have come to understand about personal power and how to step into it. The only way we manifest these “inevitabilities” is by, at some level, expecting them to occur. That’s it. Its epigenetic of the mind – when we put ourselves in a mindset environment of believing something will come to pass, we set the scene for that thing to happen…or, we wake up to the fact that this option is juts one of an infinite array of alternate choices and so we don’t!
Could these running themes, rather, be perfect opportunities to start from a similar point and then do something very differently? Do we not see this in action, more often than ever these days, embodied by people who undergo “miracle” recoveries; who, in ways quite startling in some cases (as though they are here expressly to demonstrate what we are all really capable of – I give you Anita Moorjani as a prime example), write entirely different endings to their own once inevitable-seeming story to remind us we all get to pick up that pen and author our own life?
These days, I’m very conscious about what advice I seek and from whom and here’s the reason why. We all know, don’t we, that when we go after advice from a particular source, we will hear what we already half-expect to hear; in fact we are already there by the time we google that self-diagnosis question, talk to the pessimistic friend or book the consultation. Then, as soon as we hear that diagnosis (which is just a theory) from a so-called source of authority, we believe it – don’t we? By then, we are already half-way there; have started to make it so through the power of our focus. That’s why, wherever possible, I do what I can to address my own health challenges rather than automatically going to see a doctor as they have this way of dropping in their theories about what else could be going wrong, what action outside your own choice-zone (including prescriptions) you should be taking; I have seldom ever come out feeling “better” and have often left feeling a lot worse, a lot less clear about what I can do to help myself, a great deal less confident in my own judgement or in charge of my own destiny.
When we hand over our power to an authority-figure – that’s so often when a sense of “inevitability” starts to slip in the back door. A controversial area coming under the recent microscope of those who question the merits versus the fear-factor and scope for extreme over-reaction is the whole culture of mammograms and self-examination to “prevent” breast cancer, and its a extremely thought-provoking topic, one on which I hold my own fairly left-field views. For more on this, I recommend Without a Trace and Transforming the Breast Self-Exam, plus other related articles by Dr Christiane Northrup on her extremely useful website.
On a similar theme, my dentist recently suggested I might want to go and see a maxillofacial consultant to look into some challenges I’ve been having with my temporomandibular joint, to avoid them getting any worse or anything more sinister coming to light further down the line. However, almost certainly, any problem they “find” (which they will…though I know I have lived with this “issue”, as my version of normal, for years if not forever) would result in very strong advice to undergo extremely complex facial surgery. I know this already based on past advice, my own research, what specialists in this field always advocate and what my dentist has experienced with other clients before. I also know I don’t want that surgery and all the trimmings, nor do I consider it necessary (or proportional) to deal with what I have going on so why even set that ball rolling by having a scan “just in case”; in fact, I started to imagine my symptoms to be far more invasive than I had previously noticed almost the minute I had this conversation with my well-intending dentist, such is the power of the mind. I stress, if I really thought there was a life-threatening issue going on I would make the appointment but I have consulted my inner guidance system – which I trust implicitly – and I really don’t.
As it is, I’m already receiving treatment from a myofascial therapist who has worked miracles with her somewhat new age approach to unravelling the nerves in my head so why would I throw-in all the faith I have in that, and my own *healing-abilities, for a far more invasive and risky approach taken as a preventative measure. Its a fundamental matter of having deepest faith in the power of my own ability to recover, from the inside out, that now motivates my every decision and this applies to the deepest knowledge that I am on no one’s path but my own, going forwards, and that makes nothing at all “inevitable” or even likely that I didn’t agree to first.
So what is self-healing and can we all do it?
What I refer to when I mention self-healing in any context is the whole package of what I eat and take as supplements to practices such as yoga, sauna and self-massage to the kind of mindset I diligently encourage in myself, the self-talk I engage in and, not least, that inner guidance I refer to above; the “gut feeling”or voice of the heart that tells it like it is (whenever I am prepared to listen). When it comes to family traits, yes, I see the same patterns but have worked hard at recognising the underlying belief systems, the behaviour that fuelled the biology and the self-sabotaging lifestyle choices that I have the beautiful advantage of sidestepping. With gratitude and a deep bow to them for all the challenges they took on, I get to thank my biological family for carrying the long-running threads that I am now at liberty to consciously cut lose from.
The power of the mind is a well-documented healing modality so no need to itemise all the many ways this can be brought onboard but I will give a quick “plug” to a modality I have recently enjoyed noticeable success with – known as The Healing Codes, you can read all you need to get started in the kindle-downloadable book and website that I have linked to.
Dying to be me – Anita Moorjani
Dr Christiane Northup – her website and invaluable books that inspire you to take back control of your own health
The Healing Codes – Alexander Loyd
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